Our mid-life mindset ...it's so important ...

My twin boys were out of their teens and my husband was tragically killed in a motorcycle accident during Covid.

I threw myself ever more into my boys, whilst a little voice in my head said 'but what then' as they were growing up and out of the home.  Thankfully my life-long passion for self-growth and 'looking on the bright side' (by toxic necessity) stood me in good stead and in my 50's I threw myself into a community of like minded souls who pushed me and consoled me and ignited my desire for a better life in every way.   This is an unedited photo of me taking the time to dress up a little for a Zoom call a few years ago, when life had previously seemed very dark.  I treasure this photo below because there is life in my eyes again and a spark in my smile that I had been lacking and that I know many others do too.

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Now I want to give back.  My specialty and passion is igniting the fire in others during this period of their life, and helping them see that whilst it is a time of letting go of parts of life, it is therefore also a time of letting new elements in and finding strength and joy every day!

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Midlife can be a time of significant change and transition, and there are several common issues that people may experience during this stage of life. Can you relate to some of the most common issues in midlife?

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1. Career issues: Many people experience job dissatisfaction or feel stuck in their careers during midlife. They may also feel pressure to earn more money or achieve more success.

2. Relationship issues: Midlife can be a time of significant changes in relationships, such as divorce, empty nest syndrome, or caring for aging parents.

3. Health issues: Midlife is often associated with health concerns such as weight gain, high blood pressure, and menopause.

4. Aging and mortality: As people enter midlife, they may become more aware of their own mortality and experience feelings of fear or anxiety about aging.

5. Financial concerns: Many people in midlife are concerned about saving for retirement and may feel overwhelmed by the financial responsibilities of raising children and caring for aging parents.

6. Identity crisis: Midlife can be a time of reevaluating one's goals, values, and purpose in life, which may lead to an identity crisis.

7. Existential questions: Many people in midlife begin to question the meaning of life and their place in the world.

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These issues are common, but they can also be opportunities for growth, reflection, and positive change.

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Worrying is one of the most common issues at this time, and whilst it is a natural human response to stress and anxiety, it can become overwhelming and interfere with your quality of life. Here are some tips to help you stop worrying in midlife:

1. Identify what is causing your worry. Take some time to reflect on what is causing your worry and write it down. This will help you to clarify your thoughts and emotions.

2. Challenge your thoughts. Once you have identified your worries, try to challenge the thoughts that are causing them. Ask yourself if your worries are realistic, if they are based on facts, and if there is evidence to support them.

3. Practice relaxation techniques. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and yoga can help to reduce stress and anxiety.

4. Stay physically active. Regular exercise can help to reduce stress, improve mood, and promote overall health and well-being.

5. Stay connected with others. Having a support network of family and friends can help you to cope with stress and worry.

6. Seek professional help if needed. If your worry is persistent and interfering with your daily life, it may be helpful to seek the advice of a mental health professional.

 

Remember that worry is a natural human response, but it is important to take steps to manage it so that it does not become overwhelming and interfere with your quality of life.

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So here are some inspiring and totally true things to say about midlife (even if you don't quite feel it yet)!

1. Midlife can be a time of self-discovery and personal growth. It's an opportunity to reflect on your values, goals, and purpose in life.

2. With age comes wisdom and experience, which can be invaluable assets in navigating the challenges of midlife and beyond.

3. Midlife can be a time to pursue new passions and hobbies, and to try things that you may not have had time for earlier in life.

4. Many people in midlife find that they have greater clarity and focus than they did in their younger years, which can lead to greater success and fulfillment in their careers and personal lives.

5. Midlife can be a time of renewed relationships with family and friends, as well as an opportunity to form new connections and friendships.

6. As people enter midlife, they often have a greater appreciation for life's simple pleasures, such as spending time with loved ones, enjoying nature, and pursuing meaningful hobbies.

7. Midlife can be a time to embrace your inner child and to find joy and playfulness in everyday life.

Remember that midlife is a unique stage of life that comes with its own challenges and opportunities. Embrace this time and focus on the positive aspects of aging and the wisdom and experience that come with it.

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I can help you form more clarity around your future directions, both physically and mentally, and be a calm oasis of caring for your questioning and seeking at this time.  Every single day that passes is one that we never get back so open yourself up to change now.  Honestly - some days I just can't wait to throw back the covers and hop into life.  Sure, there are days I want to still hide, but most days hold discovery, joy and appreciation that I am actually alive and following my passion.  I hope you allow me to assist you in finding joy too.   

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    Liz

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